Wedding night in paradise

It has been the most perfect day. It was all that you ever dreamed about. The weather was perfect and the whole ceremony went without a glitch. And the whole reception afterwards was really fun too.

Now comes one of the most anticipated moments in your life. Your wedding night.

But to your dismay, you find that you are totally bushed. All the excitement and the running around all day has taken its toll. Now, all you want to do is crawl onto that plush bed and just zonk out. But then, is that the wedding night you want to remember for the rest of your life.

The first night of your marriage and you slept? Not a very auspicious beginning, right?

Okay, so now what to do? Well, the first thing to do is face the fact that you are tired. But there are more ways than one of getting rid of your fatigue.

Most wedding experts advice taking it slow, not doing anything ambitious and simply swapping some funny stories could ease the pressure of “performing” in bed. Just relax with each other. Try taking a bath or shower and ease into something comfortable.

Most probably, you were too busy to eat anything during the reception. So order some room service. It might be a good idea to order some aphrodisiacs. Champagne and chocolate covered strawberries would be lovely as a dessert.

Now that you’ve eaten your fill, try and set the mood. Arrange in advance to have a bouquet of flowers put by the bed, as well as scented candles. You can also sprinkle a few drops of essential oil on your sheets. Try ylang-ylang, sandalwood, lavender or jasmine—scents that are said to increase arousal and sexual desire.

Put on some music. Mix a CD beforehand that has both your favourite songs and some soothing romantic music. Now, play it and enjoy each other’s company. Just cuddle and talk, share your memories of what the best part of the wedding was for each of you.

If things start to heat up, now might be a good time to bring out the big guns. Soft, silky lingerie may not be the most original idea, but it’s always fun. Try and pick something a little different than what you usually wear to excite your partner. Plus let’s not forget that sexy underwear isn’t just for ladies! Guys can also splurge for something that makes them feel powerful and alluring.

Above all else, it’s important to be honest with each other. If you’re too tired for a whole night of sex, say so. Maybe your spouse will be just as relieved. You have the whole of your honeymoon to enjoy the sex. But, your wedding night should be more about intimacy and love.